Husband never made an effort to redeem?

Many times I tried to have a heart to heart talk to my husband, he doesn't seems to understand. Even if he does, he'll just has nothing to say. Even on the verge of separation due to he's betrayal. He admitted his mistake but never made a single effort to understand my feelings nor mending my broken heart. I don't know he's dumb or what? He just kept saying "I still love you" fullstop! Everyday I struggle to try to forget the incident but he has been lying for the past 4 years since our 1st child was born and while I'm struggling with a complicated 2nd delivery of our daughter. I just want him to communicate with me. Does every love hurts?